mental health MON
Authenticity *
"Authenticity demands Wholehearted living & loving--even when it's hard, even when we're wrestling with the shame & fear of not being good enough, & especially when the joy is so intense that we're afraid to let ourselves feel it . . . Mindfully practicing authenticity doing our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy, & gratitude into our lives . . ."When looking at the attributes associated w/masculinity, the researchers identified these as important attributes for men: emotional control, primacy of work, control over women, & pursuit of status. That means if men want to play it safe, they need to stop feeling, start earning, & give up on meaningful connection.
"The thing is...authenticity isn't always the safe option. Sometimes choosing being real over being liked is all about playing it unsafe. It means stepping out of our comfort zone. And trust me, as someone who has stepped out on many occasions, it's easy to get knocked around when you're wandering through new territory . . .
"Sacrificing who we are for the sake of what other people think just isn't worth it. Yes, there can be authenticity growing pains for the people around us, but in the end, being true to ourselves is the best gift we can give the people we love . . .
"I'm inspired by everyone who shares their work & opinions w/the world. Courage is contagious . . . "
- MY COMMENTS: "Wrestling w/the shame & fear of not being good enough . . . " I can totally identify with that, & I think it's a spiritual issue, as well as an emotional issue. Until Christ enters our hearts & we are gifted w/His righteousness, the truth is simple: we are NOT good enough. Too many problems in our contemporary world are rooted in an educational system that teaches children that they are inherently good. No, they are not.
- Are attributes associated w/masculinity a matter of nature or nurture? What do YOU think. I think it's a combination. Once again, I can identify w/"emotional control" & "primacy of work." That 2nd attribute contributed to my "burn-out," but it was not an EXCUSE for my burn-out. I take responsibility for letting this attribute rule me.
- What if wanting to be liked IS part of being real?
- Being true to yourself is a troublesome concept for me, because ultimately we are selfish individuals, most interested in our own wants & needs. Even after Jesus Christ intervenes to bless us w/forgiveness by His grace, our newly saved-self continues to struggle w/the old true-self. In theological terms, we call that the "Old Adam."
- I must be courageous, because I've shared my work & opinions w/the world in my own tiny sphere. However, I don't kid myself into thinking that my work & opinions are worth the digital space they occupy.
- I am grateful to those of you to take time out of your busy schedules to read about my work & opinions . . . even more grateful to those of you who take the time to comment.
Reasons to Feel Cheerful...Upbeat...Optimistic
From Omaha World Herald (8/22): "WWII vet, 93, ends run across America w/toes in Atlantic. After 2 years & 10 months,93-yr-old Ernie Andrus has made it across America. The WWII vet dipped his toes in the Atlantic Ocean SAT, ending a cross-country run that started in San Diego . . . " [I've been accused of picking on certain, left-of-center politicians & celebrities more often than their counterparts on the right. Well, if & when any of them dip their toes in the Atlantic Ocean after a feat like this one--instead of while enjoying a vacation at Martha's Vineyard at taxpayer-expense--I'll re-think my comments.] ** Toes...feat...I caught that after the fact. Sometimes I crack myself up.
From Lincoln Journal Star (8/18): "Rocking for a purpose w/'Havelock' Elvis in the building. The rocking commenced at 8:00a & ended at 3:00p, &, in between, there were doughnuts & coffee & snow cones & a man in a silky shirt w/a white guitar & a microphone. 'We have Elvis here right now so the room is crowded,' explained the front-desk greeter at The Arbors.
"WED was Seniors Rocking for a Reason day at the Alzheimer's care home in north Lincoln. And they were rocking to raise money for the annual Walk to End Alzheimer coming up in SEP . . . " [The first house we owned was in Havelock. We loved that neighborhood but eventually had to move because we outgrew our house. I still like to drive through that neighborhood & by our old house when I return to Lincoln. It brings back great memories--wonderful nostalgia.] *
* Like the time I took my young son & daughter to see "The Fox & the Hound" at the Joyo Theater, up on Havelock Ave. My little girl was sitting on my lap. During the scene where the fox & hound were saying their good-byes, I felt her little body give a shake. She was quietly sobbing. That almost made her daddy sob, too. **
** Do any of my readers remember Captain Havelock?
Fish Fest 2016: I'm still using this forum to let my faithful(?) readers know how grateful I am to my wonderful & long-suffering wife Lois for getting me to Fish Fest at the Ralston Arena on 8/13. I'm pretty sure that her favorite artist was Lauren Daigle. My favorite, as I've mentioned before, was Matt Maher. Here's a favorite lyric from one of my favorite Matt Maher songs, Lord, I Need You:
"Lord, I need You, O I need You
Every hour I need You
My one defense
My righteousness
O God how I need You."
G.O.M.E.R. * Returns
Also from LJS (8/26): "Most teens vaping fruity flavors: health officials warn that electronic cigarettes & other vaping devices are poisoning kids w/nicotine. But new research suggests that most teens aren't vaping nicotine but using sweet & fruity flavors like strawberry, chocolate cake & bubble gum . . . " [In a related story, SOSJK told reporters that sweet & fruity vapor-devices pose a greater risk to Americans than ISIS.]Ditto LJS (7/27): "Avoid electronic histrionics w/this cucumber-mint soup . . . " [I associate avoiding any kind of histrionics w/a toasted cheese sandwich on sourdough bread, along w/a cup of hearty tomato soup. You can understand why I would take one look at this headline in the LJS "Seasoned to Taste" feature & ignore the rest of the article.] **
** So why do I waste my money on this progressive, hippy-dippy newspaper whenever I'm spending time in Lincoln? Good question. ***
*** Because I'm OCD when it comes to newspapers. There . . . I answered my own question.
Also from OWH (8/16): "Michael Weatherly energized by his new CBS series, 'Bull.' [I saw this headline, was immediately demoralized at the thought of one of my favorite characters departing one of my favorite TV series, & couldn't bring myself to read the rest of the article.]
* Grumpy Old Men & Their Elucidating Rants